Day#10, Friday at the start of a long weekend.
I wanted to put a message out, nothing big, but sometimes, particularly at the start of any holiday I think about those traveling. I think about those that either wont get to their destination, or wont get home. I s'pose because it is one of the things that has impacted so heavily (unintended pun) on my life, something that can happen to anyone, and something usually quite avoidable.
I thought I might look up the web for horrific pics of motor accidents and do a collage in photoshop until I ran across the pics of Nicki Catsouras. A 18 year old girl who borrowed a Porsche and lost control in the U.S. Really, I'm not going to put those pics up here, and I found others, many worse, but couldn't find anything that conveyed what I wanted to express. The net is full of horror pics and that isn't what I really wanted to work with.
One Image took my eye, it wasnt the girl lying dead on the road that got me, but the look on the guys face as he realised what had happened. At least it was something I could relate to and from there I whipped up a quick poster for my daily contribution.
I thought about the kids I know and love and put a message together ...
Interestingly enough, the pic was taken by a group of students from
Lancaster & Morecambe College for their own road safety message.
Day#11 due time was coming close and I was playing around trying to revive my old photoshop skills. I still haven't got the hang of it back again since they changed all of the tools and their buttons, can't find anything. Even though it's filled with wonderful new tools, I'm still not up to speed on what they do or how they work. Anyway, was playing with "winters Day" image and when I rotated it and fiddled a bit, a spoon emerged, Vallah, I'm a happy man, that will do nicely ~grinz~
My cousins wife rang as I was posting it up, bit of drinkies going on at their place so I thought I might get out of the house and socialise a bit. Have a few drinks, a game of pool and couch surf.
On the way over I found myself thinking, as I had since making the accident poster, of my own accident. One thought stuck in my mind, about the kid that had run into me, the kid who changed my life so dramatically, .. and yet.. I could not remember his name.
Anyway, we had a few drinks, danced a bit, I lost badly at pool and slept on the couch.
Day #12 broke and the sun was shining. Did a bit of work on my cousins computer, ate baked spuds, and took a pic of the clouds coming over. I was struck with the difference between the sunshine we were in and the dark tones under the clouds as they rolled in. I sent the pic into the
cloud project at pool.
I was still thinking about my accident, thinking about an upcoming ABCOpen project, and thinking about how to tell that story. On the way home I stopped at the site of my accident and took some pics, maybe it was healing, maybe part of the process, I dont know. Taking the pics felt like what I was supposed to be doing ~shrugs~.
I also stopped in at the shed to get some images of sketches that I had there. Old artwork I had done, and in particular there was an image that I had sketched as soon as I was able to, after the crash. It was bugging me at the time, that image. I wasn't able to clear my mind of it until I put it down on paper in the hospital and then I had some peace from it.
I took some digital images of the sketches and went home. After transferring them to the mac I began to play with them (again in photoshop) and posted two them. For that day I posted "tzuki no hanna" - flower of the moon. Just a doodle I had played with inspired by a Japanese woman I had known. I didnt alter the pic itself too much except to put the whole thing against a black background. I could have fixed the blemishes and spots but that was how I had originally made it and it stayed.
Day#13 and it was the other side of midnight from posting Tzuki no hanna. I grabbed another of my favorite sketches and imported it to photoshop for a fiddle. This one had started out as a Bowie-esque supercritical self portrait, evolved into a comment on fashion and then was put away for a few years. I photoshop framed it called it Richard Fasionista and posted it up to give me a free day.
The next day was to be a busy day and I had volunteered to work at a combined exercise with the police, the SES and Red Cross. I had cut myself some slack as regard to the 30 days of creativity project, set my alarm, and wandered up to the event.
I was to be a victim/patient in a couple of different scenarios in rescue training. I s'pose I might have foreseen how emotionally confronting this was going to be within me. Because I am an amputee I was easily made up and put into scenarios that mimicked my original injuries. It all seemed surprising familiar to me, laying there, waiting for help. I had taken a spare leg and bent it at ridiculous angles inside the leg of the pants I was wearing. It looked pretty graphic. It brought back memories and I drew on them for the purposes of the exercise. Apart from the lack of pain and the bleeding, I reproduced the whole thing, I could feel the emotions and managed to shake from the inside as I had remembered doing. Had to do it twice, once in the morning trapped under a car, and once in the afternoon with one leg trapped down a wombat burrow and another broken and shattered outside it. I think if they gave awards for acting that day, I would have got an oscar. ~grinz~
When it was over I was physically tired but hugely emotionally drained. I stopped in at my sisters on the way home for a cuppa and a much needed debriefing session.
Sitting at the table chatting with Dave (my brother in law), I started to fiddle with a piece of wire my sister had left on the table. My sister does artwork and stuff to keep her sane since they are slowly pensioning her off, at the moment she is crafting wire, something she can do inside because her lungs are shot from the chemicals and complications at her work.
The wire slowly formed itself into a small dragonfly so I took some pics for uploading. A quick photoshop frame and it's uploaded for Day#14's offering.
On the drive home I kept thinking about the day, my accident and why I couldn't remember the kids name
I used to know it off by heart, not something one forgets easily.
I remember him sitting on the side of the road, his work ute written off and his face in his hands weeping in self pity. My pillion lay dead and I struggled, immobilised, broken, bleeding out and straining for breath against the choking strap of my helmet. I saw him there.
I remember my wife picking me up from hospital to attend the coroners inquest, I remember his face and that of his supporting family as the judge made his ruling. I remember going back to the hospital after my brief hours escape to that court, back to the traction and the surgeons.
I remember going to the criminal court for his charging by the Police. They were charging him with culpable driving, for reckless endangerment, maiming me and killing my pillion.
I remember clearly the pivotal moment where I put my hand on the silver door handle, the feel of cold metal, my wife maneuvering my wheelchair so that we could enter. I remember my thoughts and the conundrum that faced me at that moment.
To me, if he received a harsh punishment I would have felt
vengeful - a satisfaction that within me would have been bad Karma. Alternatively at the other end of the spectrum, if he received a light sentence I would have felt
ripped off,- I would be wanting him
further punished. This also would have been bad karma within me.
So I took my hand from the shiny metal handles on the glass doors and turned to my wife, "Please, take me back," and I went back to the hospital not knowing, not wanting to know, simply for my own spiritual well being.
Some years later, I ran into one of the police involved and we spoke of the accident and the court, he went to tell me of the verdict and sentencing and I stopped him, explaining why I didn't want to know and he nodded and acquiesced.
To this day I still don't know, and still don't want to.
Perhaps not even remembering his name is a sign of the healing.
Perhaps methinks this is a good thing.
Be Safe and Well,
Scuzz.